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If you or someone you know is in danger, contact 911 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 to speak to an advocate in any language. Online chat is also available at thehotline.org/help

Domestic violence and other abuses can difficult to recognize, and abusive partners can also show affection.

The following can be signs of abuse in a relationship:

  • Jealousy
  • Hypersensitivity, sudden change of mood
  • Verbal abuse, threats
  • Isolating you from friends, family, support networks
  • Always wanting to know where you are
  • Repeatedly pushing your boundaries, even when you express that you are not comfortable with it
  • Withholding or keeping control of finances, important documents
  • Cruelty to pets and/or children
  • Damaging objects
  • Using any force, such as pushing or pinching
  • Withholding access to your or children’s passports or immigration documents, threatening to report you to immigration enforcementon all outings, including on doctor’s visits, to church or temple
  • Threatening breakup, divorce, or to keep you from the children
  • Claiming you are an unfit parent, seperating you from the children, or not letting you have a say in their upbringing
  • Controlling your medication, treatments, or access to medical and support resources
  • Forcing you to watch or imitate pornography, or to engage in unwanted sexual acts
  • Showing extreme sexual neglect/coldness, or forcing you to tolerate infidelity
  • Preventing you from participating in cultural or religious activities
  • Belittling your beliefs, using culture or religion to justify their behaviors, or using stereotypes to put you down (saying that you must act a certain way because you belong to a particular community, or suggesting that you dont belong in a community because you dont fit the stereotype)
  • Abuse, controlling behaviors, or beratement from your in-laws or extended family

In different cultural communities, the signs of abuse can look very different, so the above list is not comprehensive.

 

 

National Hotlines and Directories

Directory of Domestic Violence Programs Serving Asian & Pacific Islander Survivors: Download or search by service, language, location, and more

National Domestic Violence Hotline
800.799.7233 | Video phone 855.812.1001
Online chat available every day from 5:00am – 12:00am PST

National Human Trafficking Hotline (Polaris Project)
888.373.7888
Text “BeFree” to 233733 (12:00pm – 8:00pm PST)

National Sexual Assault Hotline (RAINN)
800.656.4673
Online chat available 24/7

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
800.273.8255 | Deaf and Hard of Hearing 800.799.4889
Online chat available 24/7

National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline
866.331.8453
Text ‘”loveis” to 22422
Online chat available 24/7

National Directory of Programs with Experience Serving Immigrant Victims
Maintained by The National Immigrant Women’s Advocacy Project (NIWAP)

StrongHearts Native Helpline
844.762.8483 (M-F 9am to 5:30pm CST)

Tech Safety

In today’s interconnected world, abusers can use your phone, computer, and even household devices to maintain surveillance, control, or threat. We suggest reviewing the Technology Safety Toolkit for Survivors from the National Network to End Domestic Violence for resources on how to stay safe. Topics include:

  • Cell phone safety & privacy,
  • Home automating devices (Alexa, Nest, smart outlets, etc)
  • Images and consent
  • Social media safety
  • Safety apps

Sometimes, your loved one may not be looking for a solution, but just for someone to talk to. 

Domestic Violence Resource Networks (DVRN)

The DVRN engages in individual and collective strategic actions to advance public policy, institutional change, community responses, and prevention initiatives that integrate and respond to the diverse realities and needs of survivors, their families and their communities. The individual advocacy efforts of DVRN members are informed by the wide range of expertise within the network and strengthened by opportunities for critical thinking and robust discussion of cross-cutting policy and practice issues.

Battered Women’s Justice Project (BWJP)
800.903.0111 | www.bwjp.org

Futures Without Violence
415.678.5500 | www.futureswithoutviolence.org

National Center on Domestic Violence, Trauma & Mental Health
312.726.7020 x2011 | www.nationalcenterdvtraumamh.org

National Clearinghouse for the Defense of Battered Women (NCDBW)
800.903.0111 x3 | www.ncdbw.org

National Indigenous Women’s Resource Center (NIWRC)
855.649.7299 or 406.477.3896 | www.niwrc.org

National Latin@ Network for Health Families and Communities
A Project of Casa de Esperanza
651.646.5553 | www.nationallatinonetwork.org and www.casadeesperanza.org

National Resource Center on Domestic Violence (NRCDV)
800.537.2238 | www.nrcdv.org and www.vawnet.org

Northwest Network of Bisexual, Trans, Lesbian, and Gay Survivors (NW Network)
206.568.7777 | http://www.nwnetwork.org

National Network to End Domestic Violence (NNEDV)
202.543.5566 | www.nnedv.org

Resource Center on Domestic Violence: Child Protection and Custody
Operated by the National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges (NCJFCJ)
800.527.3423 | www.ncjfcj.org/our-work/domestic-violence

Ujima (The National Center on Violence Against Women in the Black Community)
202.299.1181 | www.ujjimacommunity.org